Psychotherapist Boulder | Xandra Hawes, LPC & Holistic Therapist
Takeaway: Difficult life experiences, social pressures, and mental health issues can take you away from being your authentic self. However, it is possible to realign with your inner truth and soul essence. As a therapist in Boulder, CO, I help people like you reconnect with themselves and find joy and healing. Start your healing journey today.
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Feeling everything, all the time is exhausting. Highly sensitive people and empaths are often burnt out, overwhelmed, and constantly worried that they aren't doing enough to help others and the planet. Caring so much, all the time, can feel like shouldering the world. But it doesn't have to be like this.
Want to know a hidden secret? Sensitive and empathic people have a superpower, but they often haven't learned how to tap into it.
Sensitive people can pick up on pain, sadness, anger, or overwhelm very easily. But when you feel things deeply, you can ALSO train your senses to tap into ease, joy, love, and acceptance just as easily. It takes practice, and finding a therapeutic relationship to support this shift in your abilities can make a world of difference.
Let's take a closer look at what it's like to be a highly sensitive and empathic person operating in this world, and how holistic therapy in Boulder can be a huge first step to helping you transform your life.
Does this sound like you?
You've been craving a deeper soul connection, but find yourself struggling with anxiety, depression, or trauma. You've been told you're "too sensitive" and struggle to let go of other people's energy or trust yourself. You long to feel more aligned in your soul purpose and want to carve out time for your own personal self-growth, but it feels daunting to find a therapist that "gets it" and can work alongside you.
You might catch yourself thinking things like:
Why can't I just let things go?
I want to meditate or find inner peace, but I feel really overwhelmed and anxious.
Why do other people feel less or seem to not care as much?
I feel like I'm an old soul, but I don't know my purpose.
Everyone comes to me for advice or help, but I can't seem to get better.
I wish I could run away and live like a monk in a cave somewhere.
The truth is... sensitive, empathic, and intuitive people often struggle with understanding what's their energy or someone else's, which makes it tricky to make decisions and to understand what coping skills you need to feel better. This can result in feeling heavy and burdened with self-limiting beliefs, relationship difficulties, and anxiety.
It doesn't have to be like this.
Sensitive people have unique challenges when it comes to energetic boundaries, but when they discover their hidden strengths through a combination of mindfulness awareness and Buddhist psychology therapy, they get better. And thrive.
If so, consider working with a therapist in Boulder.
Counseling is not only a place to heal the core roots of traumatic events, lifelong struggles with depression and anxiety, substance abuse, and relationship issues, but it's also a sacred space for self-discovery where you are held in compassion and deep care. The right therapist not only addresses symptoms, but honors your entire well-being so you can heal spiritual, emotional, mental, and physical blockages, and define personal goals and growth.
You deserve healing. You deserve to connect with your authentic self and find meaning and joy in your life.
Therapy is life-changing and can alleviate symptoms from past wounds.
Learn more about how we can do this together below.
Meet Xandra Hawes | Therapist in Boulder, CO
I know how hard it can be to question yourself so often that anxiety seems like a best friend. I know exactly how it feels to be overwhelmed all the time by feelings while being plagued by depression and confusion about your purpose and the future.
Hi, I'm Xandra, and I'm a Holistic Psychotherapist in Boulder, Colorado. I'm a Licensed Professional Counselor, Mindfulness Instructor, and Energy Healing Practitioner. I specialize in helping sensitive, empathic, and intuitive adolescents and adults heal anxiety and depression so they can tap into their inner knowing and discover true empowerment.
Our approach to therapy
Sensitive and empathic people often long to discover a deeper connection to their soul essence because they are aware that this spiritual resource will connect them to their inner vision and inherent wisdom.
Soul Essence Psychotherapy is a unique therapeutic approach where we work together using several modalities:
Meditation & Mindfulness Awareness Practices
Learning how to see the connection between your thoughts and beliefs and how they create unnecessary emotional pain is a huge first step to healing. Through meditation and slowing down your mind, you begin to see the root thoughts that were often learned in childhood (or through trauma) that negate your self-worth and hinder positive growth. Through this awareness, you get better at "catching" your thoughts so they don't take root and spiral into emotional overwhelm. When you can catch your thinking, you can then pause the negative self-talk, recycle it, and choose positive statements in order to reprogram your brain and build new neuropathways. This results in more gratitude, ease, positivity, self-compassion, and inner freedom.
Somatic Therapy & Energy Healing
Traditional therapy often focuses on processing thoughts and emotions from a cognitive-based perspective. The tricky part? Trauma, depression, and anxiety live in the body. Mental health care combined with a somatic and energy healing focus allows you to recognize and heal the core programming stored in your nervous system that has been shaped by your family and past experiences.
Sensitive people often struggle to form secure relationships because energetic boundaries and communication can be difficult when you feel everything around you. Life can literally feel like it's on steroids. Part of healing your relationship issues is understanding attachment wounds that stem from childhood and how this impacts how you choose your friends and partners, communicate and express yourself, show love to others, and receive care.
Buddhist Psychology & Contemplative Psychotherapy
As a Buddhist, I believe you have immense inner wisdom inside of you that can get covered up by anxiety, doubt, mistrust, depression, trauma, and confusion. With deep compassion and resonance, I bring a frequency of tenderness and insight to help you shed the emotional blockages and layers of programming that have gotten in the way of you seeing and witnessing yourself with true appreciation and self-love. I believe you have everything you need to heal yourself, but sometimes we need to let go of the untrue narratives that have taken root in your mind and body.
Who our Boulder psychotherapy services are for
Our clients are diverse in terms of gender identity, culture, age, and sexual orientation. But all of them identify as sensitive, empathic, or intuitive beings that are invested in personal growth and long to reconnect to their authentic selves. We work with children, adolescents, young adults, and adults that:
- realize they have an unexpressed, deeper meaning inside of them and have often felt like they don't belong
- feel like an old soul, but haven't aligned in their life purpose yet
- are very sensitive and struggle to let go of difficult thoughts and feelings
- have trouble letting go of other people's energy they have taken on
- struggle with anxiety, depression, or trauma and are seeking holistic methods to shift their behaviors and thoughts
Highly Sensitive People or HSPs
HSPs often feel overwhelmed by everyday experiences. Strong smells, bright lights, loud noises, and even certain textures can feel very uncomfortable due to having a sensitive nervous system. In a general sense, you feel more impacted by stimuli in your environment, which can result in difficulty with boundaries and discomfort in relationships or isolation. HSPs can experience high levels of anxiety, and bouts of depression, and also struggle with addiction if they don't have people in their lives that understand them.
Empaths can also identify as HSPs, however, empaths not only feel the environment but also feels other people's emotions. Because they feel it all, empaths struggle with overwhelm, causing them to experience high levels of confusion in identifying their thoughts and emotions. This can make it difficult for them to feel confident, trusting, and rooted in their everyday lives. Empaths can also struggle with anxiety, depression, and addiction when they have low self-esteem in regards to navigating their sensitivity.
Intuitive people are often empaths and HSPs, but they also have a strong inner knowing that can appear as a thought, feeling, or sensation in the body. These internal prompts can appear in dreams, as synchronicities, signs in nature, and psychic abilities. This might be as simple as thinking of a friend and all of a sudden they call you, to having a dream that shows you meeting a new friend and then you bump into this exact person at a coffee shop. Intuitives are often drawn to spiritual pursuits, divination tools, holistic healing, metaphysical practices, astrology, and more.
Children that are born with extra abilities, such as telepathy, talking with spirits, moving objects, and clairvoyance rarely have the support system to understand their gifts and to help them learn how to feel confident and excited. Xandra was also born with these abilities and works with many psychic children to help them thrive and overcome the negative side effects of living in a world where they are not commonly understood.
FAQs about working with a Boulder psychotherapist
Have some questions about the therapeutic relationship and the technical details? Here are some FAQs:
Do you work in person or online?
Answer: Both! We have offices located in Boulder, but we can meet virtually with anyone that lives in Colorado.
How will I know if we're the right fit?
Answer: We offer free 30-minute consultation calls so we can get a better sense of you, your goals, and what working together could look like.
I'm afraid to reach out. I've tried therapy before and it didn't work.
Answer: We totally get it. Finding the right modality and therapist to work alongside you is crucial to achieving your goals. We are 100% honest about whether or not we're the best fit to help you, which is why we set aside a large chunk of time to really listen to you before scheduling a first session. There are many therapists in Boulder County and Colorado, and we have amazing referrals if we know someone who would be better aligned to support you.
Do you take insurance?
Answer: Our practice is considered an out-of-network provider. However, some insurance companies will reimburse you for a percentage of meetings depending on your plan and deductible. We are happy to provide a "superbill" that you can submit to insurance for partial or full coverage. We also accept all major credit cards and HSA cards.
Should you see a psychotherapist or a psychologist?
Answer: Although both psychotherapists and psychologists provide mental health counseling, psychologists assist with psychological testing and evaluation and have a stronger background in research and clinical assessment. For instance, a psychologist might be a better choice for a client healing from a traumatic brain injury (TBI) because they can offer comprehensive assessments to better diagnose them. Therapists and psychologists can work in many environments, such as clinics, organizations or in private practice.
In order to become a mental health counselor, licensed professional counselor, or licensed social worker, you must have a master's degree from an accredited university. To be a licensed psychologist, you must have your doctorate.
There are other licenses that both therapists and psychologists can hold if they have additional experience and documented clinical hours in a certain modality. For instance, a licensed addiction counselor in Colorado must take additional courses and also have 3000 more client hours than a licensed professional counselor. A licensed marriage and family therapist has the same requirements as a licensed professional counselor, but their clinical focus is on helping couples and families that are struggling with relationship issues and family dynamics.
Modalities such as Ketamine assisted psychotherapy (legal in Colorado) can be performed by a psychotherapist or a psychologist in tandem with a psychiatric nurse practitioner or other licensed prescriber.
When should you see a psychotherapist?
Answer: Working with a therapist can be a life-changing experience. It is completely normal to feel fear, anxiety, and even tenderness when you find a therapist to help you transform your mental health. Therapy is a great choice for people that:
- realize they are worthy of healing and want to reconnect with their authentic selves
- want to feel inspired, creative, and enlivened
- crave a more meaningful human experience
- are ready to let go of past wounds and release old energy
- are driven to explore their bigger purpose and see counseling as a sacred space to receive deeper soul messages
- feel excited by the potential to tap into greater trust, self-love, peacefulness, and joy
If you are unsure if therapy is right for you, please reach out and we can have a heart-to-heart about what you hope to achieve and if mental health counseling is the right path for you.
Are therapists really worth it?
Answer: Did you know that most therapists have a therapist? We walk the talk because we realize how valuable it is to have sacred, personal space to delve into pieces of our lives that often family and friends can't fully support us in. Choosing to start therapy is a personal decision and certain outcomes are not guaranteed. However, there's some pretty great research about the positive impacts of mindfulness and therapy, especially for anxiety and depression. Both articles essentially discuss the huge impact mindfulness practices have on reducing stress and increasing emotional regulation.
How do I know which type of therapy I need?
Answer: There is no one-size-fits-all approach to therapy, so choosing a licensed professional counselor whose approach resonates and inspires you is a great start. Some other examples of psychotherapy include Gestalt therapy (working psycho-dynamically), Wilderness therapy (working in nature), Art Therapy (working with creative outlets), and Equine Therapy (working with horses).
Our holistic approach interweaves several wisdom traditions together (Buddhist psychology, energy healing, somatic therapy, and attachment theory), in order to balance mind, body, and spirit.
If you aren't sure about what fit is best for you, we recommend you set up three meetings with three unique therapists in different modalities so you can compare and contrast what a session might look like.
Embody your authentic self with the help of a psychotherapist in Boulder, CO.
We are absolutely here to support your mind, body, and soul on this journey. You deserve healing and to live a life filled with purpose, joy, confidence, and self-trust.
Get started today with a free 30-minute consultation call.